Loving all your content, but I found this to be so specific, actionable and valuable, I just had to jump in and say "I like your article" :) Seriously, along with some other geeks I know I sometimes undervalue the semantics of human connection and breaking them down in such a specific actionable way is going to make it much easier to practice connecting in a way that appears more effortless to other humans.
Spot on. Maybe more to the point for me as a geek, steeped in being “logical and efficient,” I started out being lousy at this. It’s taken years of effort and intention to change – but I still have to be intentional and not just blurt out something meaningless. Yes I might feel like “that was a great talk” but… must remind myself, “talk about why!”
I can really relate to this. Sometimes when someone compliments me on my work in our company, I don't feel good about it. I used to think that maybe I was just being negative for getting agitated when someone was complimenting me. However, now I understand the reason why I feel that way. I don't believe that they should be judging my work, because I think they are only complimenting me on the surface of what I've done, and they don't really understand the true value of it. So next time i will try to build a connection.
Loving all your content, but I found this to be so specific, actionable and valuable, I just had to jump in and say "I like your article" :) Seriously, along with some other geeks I know I sometimes undervalue the semantics of human connection and breaking them down in such a specific actionable way is going to make it much easier to practice connecting in a way that appears more effortless to other humans.
Spot on. Maybe more to the point for me as a geek, steeped in being “logical and efficient,” I started out being lousy at this. It’s taken years of effort and intention to change – but I still have to be intentional and not just blurt out something meaningless. Yes I might feel like “that was a great talk” but… must remind myself, “talk about why!”
I really like your comment Peter, I came in to say something similar, and really like how you articulated it.
I love Kent's content that isn't strictly about tech, but is so important in general and in a tech career.
I can really relate to this. Sometimes when someone compliments me on my work in our company, I don't feel good about it. I used to think that maybe I was just being negative for getting agitated when someone was complimenting me. However, now I understand the reason why I feel that way. I don't believe that they should be judging my work, because I think they are only complimenting me on the surface of what I've done, and they don't really understand the true value of it. So next time i will try to build a connection.
I hope you'll tell the story of what happens next, whichever way it turns out.
I liked this article, it contains actionable and useful tips for me.
When you have a concrete example I’d love to hear it.
"(<- determined experimentally)." really made me laugh.
Really helpful. I'm rubbish at this, and can try some of these things immediately ;)
What you describe resembles part of the practice of Nonviolent Communication.
See e.g. Chapter 14 – "Expressing Appreciation in Nonviolent Communication" of the book with the same name by Marshall Rosenberg.
As learning about Nonviolent Communication was a game changer for me, I felt like it might help others to point out the very strong similarity :)
A more approachable source to have a look into this, is this recording of Mr. Rosenberg on the topic: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Smyc5vF6q-M
I approve of your post. haha, totally kidding!
Yeah, definitely some good things to think about. Sometimes we don't even realize why people don't think we're being genuine, even if we are.