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Gert Lõhmus's avatar

This is great tip:

Restate. If you want to engage with the feedback, restate it without all the emotionally charged words. Bullet points carry less emotional charge—use that for good.

I like to follow the principle: "Assume good intent or no intent." This can be applied even in case of baldy phrased critical feedback. The person tried to give constructive feedback, but they misphrased it.

Such approach has allows to offload emotions and approach with a learning mindset.

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David Rooney's avatar

Couple this with https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/39101777-surrounded-by-idiots and understanding the sources behaviours can really help.

If I know I'm talking to a Blue who is hyper critical on the details then I can adjust my own behaviours to be receptive of them rather than dismissive of that 1 person who always points out the tiny flaws in everything.

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Stéphane Tavera's avatar

Hi,

my F on your FFF: fanks for sharing.

Will try to remember next time I receive a F (pos or neg).

Have a nice day,

Stéphane

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Anton Zaides's avatar

Loved it.

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