Hey man. I read all your posts. Some hit me more than others. This one hit me. Your bridge metaphor is gold; I can relate and think I need to do a better job walking across my half toward others. Thanks once again for improving how I make sense of the world.
This was helpful for me. Our family is in a new place, trying to make new connections, and boy is it hard and uncomfortable and slow. But the metaphor is helpful. I’m looking forward to sharing it with my wife.
Great piece, Kent. I also lost my sister and only sibling (I was 15). I totally empathize with how it fundamentally and permanently changes you and your entire family. It is like a supernova of loss and grief that continues to reverberate across the decades.
I also am familiar with how this loneliness can cause you to seek "premature intimacy" - or in your metaphor, running all the way across the bridge.
I can relate, like others, having lost a sibling (though we had "lost" her to addiction several years before).
For the software design connection, if we assume that most people also have the bridge to cross (yes I know about the dangers of assumptions, but this one can be useful if moderated), then what are some techniques to deal with others who aren't willing or socially able to come to the bridge's midpoint? How can we help them take steps or, if unsuccessful, move forward if we have to continue to travel with them?
Hey man. I read all your posts. Some hit me more than others. This one hit me. Your bridge metaphor is gold; I can relate and think I need to do a better job walking across my half toward others. Thanks once again for improving how I make sense of the world.
This was helpful for me. Our family is in a new place, trying to make new connections, and boy is it hard and uncomfortable and slow. But the metaphor is helpful. I’m looking forward to sharing it with my wife.
Beautiful.
Kent, this was a really impactful piece for me. I relate to it personally & professionally. Thanks for sharing it.
Great piece, Kent. I also lost my sister and only sibling (I was 15). I totally empathize with how it fundamentally and permanently changes you and your entire family. It is like a supernova of loss and grief that continues to reverberate across the decades.
I also am familiar with how this loneliness can cause you to seek "premature intimacy" - or in your metaphor, running all the way across the bridge.
Learning patience is very hard. But worth it.
Wow, I don't know how to say it, but it hit me in the gut.
Thank you for sharing this. I can totally relate to the feelings you described.
Thank you for putting all this into words and sharing it with us. You've given me a lot to chew on.
I can relate, like others, having lost a sibling (though we had "lost" her to addiction several years before).
For the software design connection, if we assume that most people also have the bridge to cross (yes I know about the dangers of assumptions, but this one can be useful if moderated), then what are some techniques to deal with others who aren't willing or socially able to come to the bridge's midpoint? How can we help them take steps or, if unsuccessful, move forward if we have to continue to travel with them?